I was discussing with a lady some day ago, then a question came up among us_ is it right for a mother to stay with her daughter in her husband’s house, simplified as should a mother stay in her son inlaw’s house?
The above question was not very defined right? so we brought age to it, should a young woman in her early 50s stay in her son in-law’s house. Hey, before we proceed further, what’s your take? Consider that the woman is not sick or on a visit. A short answer is no, the long answer is still no. Is the son in-law inhuman? Not that, see the reasons and get enlightened
Why “for this reason a man should leave his mother and father and clique unto his wife” ? Imagine a man leaving to fulfill the wise nugget and the mother in-law gets into the equation. is that not a distortion of privacy?
Imagine a young healthy mother staying with her daughter in her(daughter) husband’s house, there would be no privacy especially if the man stays in self contained apartment. How would the couple now collabo? Would the mother stay outside every such time?
I have asked many ladies if they can stay with their husband in his parent’s house_well, over 80% said no, reason being that t would attract insult, see finish and bring no-freedom. Similarly, so you think a man would be comfortable staying with his wife in her parent’s house? In some culture it is even a taboo
Is the man staying with her wife in her parent’s house and the mother in-law staying in the son in-laws house not almost the same thing? The man would not be free to correct the wife in the right way when she is wrong, because he would not like her mother to feel bad
In the other hand, the lady would also not be herself fully when the mother is always around, you must have seen how some ladies(even boys) become something different whenever the mother is around. The truth remains that the presence of a mother in her daughter’s husbands house would kill the romance and intimacy involved.
So far, should a mother stay with her son in-law?
Considering how the cost of living is inflating, if a mother is young, it means her son in-law would be younger. Even if rich, he would need to save and invest for the future of his family. If the mother in-law start staying with him it would make the expense much.
Conclusively, it is not bad for a mother to visit her son in-law and stay for some whiles. But staying forever is the problem. She also has husband, even if her husband is no more, she should stay her own.
I hope this answers your question pertaining if a mother should stay with her son in-law? Please publish your take on the comment box